Wednesday, June 22, 2011

The Improtance of Good Questions

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One of the best life coaching concepts I ever learned actually came from an Anthony Robbins training seminar. In this particular seminar he got into the human mind and how the human brain works.

The basic concept is that whatever questions we ask ourselves, our brain will eventually find an answer to it. This is especially true if we keep asking ourselves the same question(s) over and over.

He went on to explain how the vast majority of the population, unfortunately, tends to ask mostly wrong questions or questions in the wrong way.

For example, the vast majority of the people in our world tend to ask questions such as "What's wrong with me?" and "How come that never happens to me?" along with questions like "Why doesn't he/she love me?" and "How come I always manage to screw things up?"

Questions such as those..... we will indeed get answers to.... we will be told by our own mind exactly what's wrong with ourselves, why good things don't happen to us, the reason they don't or won't love me, and the reasons we screw things up. Imagine how the lens of the camera would be different if we turned these questions into:
  • "What have I done right?"
  • "How can I improve my odds of having that happen to me?"
  • "What does he/she love about me?"
  • "What did I learn from this screw up and how can I use it to better my life?"
That last one... "What did I learn?" is perhaps one of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves at any given time. As long as we are learning we are changing and we are growing. As long as we are changing and growing we are working to make our life better and to have the level of success we deserve. It's only when we stop allowing ourselves to learn and we give up that we ever really fail.

The lesson here is to start paying attention to the questions you ask yourself. When you do catch yourself asking a wrong question or asking a question that has a negative connotation, then take some time to mentally rethink and change the question and ask it in a more positive way. I can promise you that when you start asking the right questions and in the way just discussed - it will have a dynamic and profound change as well as impact upon your life.

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